Safety tips are something everyone thinks they have a good handle on.
But there are always some that never cross our minds and those are the ones that usually give us the most peace of mind once we implement them.
None of the tips listed here will blow your mind. But they are practical and ones I use or have learned from others.
I also conferred with my husband, who is a police officer. So although this list is not conclusive, it should be a good starting place.
Before we dive in, I want to be clear, I do not mean to fear-monger you. I will not read posts or watch videos that do, so I will not do that to you.
But I want to remind you that there ARE dangerous people out there. I am seeing it more and more. Just this past year, two of my friend’s sons were each approached by someone with scary intentions.
We may never protect our children all the way, but we can do our best.
Also, I tend to use the pronoun “you” a lot. It is by no way meant to insult your intelligence or to imply you know nothing and I’m the expert.
“You” is just an easier way for me to get these points across. Trust me, I need these reminders just as much as the next person. 🙂
So, with ALL that said, let’s get started.
Safety Tip #1: Put down the phone.
I want to start with the simplest tip. It might not sound like much, but trust me, it is.
Put your phone down. Let that sink in and not roll off your memory as something you’ve read over and over and know already.
In a world where everyone has a phone, distraction has been the number one tool used by those with devious motives. I am guilty of being distracted by it, everyone is.
All it takes is one text, one call, and your attention is drawn away. You might not even realize how long you have been distracted.
But if you make it a habit to tuck your phone away while out with your kids, the chances of you being aware of your surroundings are nearly guaranteed.
Which leads to my next point:
Safety Tip #2: Be aware of your surroundings.
This is something I struggle with the most, especially when I’m with my kids. I can be very one-track-minded and when I’m in a hurry, it’s worse.
But I have made a conscious effort to look around when I’m out and about. I even make eye contact with people so they know I’m aware. Because if someone is scoping out a victim, the chances of him targeting a mom on her game, is slim to none.
You can also teach your children to be aware by asking them where you parked, point out landmarks to help them remember things like that.
Being aware can save your life, literally. I’ll give you an example:
When my kids were younger, I took the youngest two to a park in a neighborhood by a friend’s house. We were the only ones there, and it was a small park so I felt good about being able to keep a good eye on my kids.
But we weren’t there 20 minutes when a car backed into the parking spot right next to our van, on the driver’s side.
That was my first red flag. Most people prefer to park in the closest spots to the park or at the very least, separate from other cars in the lot. Not this guy.
So I kept an eye on him. And he on us. I noticed him glance our way more than once, but he never got out of his vehicle except to check something in his trunk.
When it was time to go, I was gripped with an overwhelming apprehension as we headed towards our van and his car. I made a last-minute decision to load the girls in the opposite door, climb in behind them, shut and lock the doors, and climb into the front seat from the back. All this while never taking my eyes off the guy, in case he started getting out of his car. I doubt he was expecting me to climb in the way I did, but I didn’t wait around long enough for him to switch to Plan B.
We left right away and I kid you not, he pulled out behind us and followed us all the way to my friend’s house where he finally drove on.
No, I didn’t get his license plate number; I was too shaken to think that far ahead. I just wanted to get as far away as possible from this guy.
But I learned firsthand that being aware is so important. I’m glad I didn’t find out the hard way.
Safety Tip #3: There’s safety in numbers.
If I had gone to the park that day with a friend, that guy might not have stuck around. But I was a young mother alone with two small children. A prime target, I would guess.
To be honest, I rarely take my girls to the park unless I’m with a friend or the park is empty. I know that doesn’t sound like a lot of fun for my children, but if there’s only me trying to monitor three fun-loving children and there are 20 other kids for them to mingle amongst, I will have some serious anxiety trying to keep a constant eye on them.
But having another adult present to help keep an eye on the kids is usually the best scenario all the way around, as long as having them along doesn’t distract you from what’s most important.
Another thing to add to this point, when you have several children to look after, having a buddy system can be a great help.
Using older children to help with the younger ones means extra eyes on the littler kids and helps you out, too.
Safety Tip #4: Hold child’s hand or keep them in cart.
This is probably the one thing I don’t have to add to this list. Everyone knows you hold a child’s hand when you are out and about with them.
But when you are in a situation where the child tends to tug free or you need your hands for something, keeping them in the cart is the next best thing.
How many times have you been in a store and heard a notice over the PA about a missing child in the store?
Every mother fears the worst: kidnapping. But chances are, it’s just a kid who wandered off. It happens so quickly.
I always felt safer having the kids in the cart when they were younger. Of course, this only works if they can stay seated.
As they got older, I had them walk alongside the cart, but they had to have one hand on the cart. This helped keep them from wandering off to check out every shiny object we passed in the store. But it also kept them close while I located items on my list.
Safety Tip #5: Practice stall safety.
If there are no other tips you keep from this post, please take this one to heart.
I have seen too many adults leave tiny children outside their stalls while the adult uses the restroom. ANYONE can snatch that child and disappear before the adult has time to react.
I even had a friend tell me someone approached their teen son at the sink of an airport bathroom and was trying to learn if he was alone. We really cannot be too careful.
If you cannot take your child in the stall with you, then send them in a neighboring one with strict instructions they are not to leave their stall until you knock on their door telling them you are finished and they can come out.
That is the practice my girls and I use. Every time.
Another thing to consider is whether to let your children go into a multi-stalled bathroom without you.
The general rule of thumb for us is, I go with them in every restroom when we are in a public place. ESPECIALLY if they have more than one exit like a rest stop, etc. Those bathrooms are notorious for traffickers.
I have a friend who encountered one trying to lure her son back into the men’s bathroom at an oasis where there was another exit on the other side of the building.
Again, not trying to scare you, but inform you. These things ARE happening.
Now, there are times, like when we are at Aldi’s, for example, where I’ll let my oldest go alone to the two-stalled bathroom but I wait just outside where I can see everyone who goes in.
Safety Tip #6: Have children memorize their information.
One of a mother’s worst fear is losing their child in a public place, but kids can be sneaky and one second of a turned head is all they need to disappear.
I did this to my mother, my kids have done it to me; I’m sure most moms have their own story of turning around only to realize their child is not with them.
Hopefully, if this happens to you, a concerned adult will come across your wandering child and will help them find you. But it would be helpful if the child knew your first and last name, phone number, and address.
Most everyone has a cell phone. One quick call and you could be reunited in no time.
It just takes time and repetition, but this practice should be a priority, even before they start school.
When we taught our children our address and phone number, we put it to a catchy song they knew well and they learned it in no time.
(If you have some effective ways you taught your child how to memorize their information, I’d love to hear about it in the comment section below!)
Safety Tip #7: Have a family password.
Sadly, there have been situations where a “friend” of the family picks up a child from school, etc. without the parent’s knowledge and takes advantage of the child because trust and familiarity got them in the door. Most molestations happen with a friend or relative of the family.
Because of that, we have a very small number of people our children may go places with. It comprises mainly of family members. But just in case, we have chosen a password as a safety precaution.
If I need a friend to meet up with my children without me present, I try to get a message to the girls first. If they have not received a heads-up from me, and a friend tries to pick them up, the girls are to ask them for the password. (The adult SHOULD have already uttered it to them before this point if I was the one who sent them.)
When they hear the password, they know all is well. If not, (I may have forgotten to give it to the adult, due to an emergency situation, etc.) then they can call me and I will either tell the adult the password or talk to my child directly. (This was before our oldest received her cellphone.)
Having a password eliminates any insecurity on our girl’s behalf and stabilizes trust for the adult taking them under their care. Or, on the flip side, if they feel something isn’t right, it gives our girls an excuse to reject the offer.
As a child, it can be very intimidating to tell an adult no. Make it as easy as possible for them.
Also, have a code your child can use when they are apart from you. One that alerts you that something is not right and your child wants to go home. This safety tip is imperative!
Think back on your own childhood. How many times were you somewhere and you wished you weren’t? Or you wanted to go home but didn’t feel you could call your mom and say, “Come get me.”
If your child is in a situation where they feel they cannot talk openly to you, it is most likely because someone else is listening. It could be a friend who tried to get them to do something they aren’t comfortable with. Or an adult. Either way, they need a way of escape that doesn’t compromise them.
Again, you need to think about things from a child’s perspective.
An adult can manipulate a child into believing anything. But if that child is uncomfortable, make it EASY for them to reach out to you in a way that doesn’t make them hesitate in the presence of others.
It should be a code that anyone listening might not pick up. For example: “What time is it?” or “Can you bring my red sweater when you pick me up?”
You can then tell the child you’re on your way and the child can pass on the message that “something came up and mom said I need to come home”.
Having these codes established will give you and your child peace of mind that you can be there for them even when someone else might not want you to be.
Safety Tip #8: Have a form for your child when they babysit.
One way to keep your teen safe is to teach them safety techniques for when they are away from you.
If an emergency happens, are they prepared? Do they have the information they need to get help?
Having a form for the parents of the child to fill out will help your teen be well-equipped in case of an emergency. It also gives them something to reference when adrenaline causes them to forget information they may already know.
This form should have all the basic information for the home they are staying in, and phone numbers for the children’s parents, any known allergies, etc.
I have a printable form set you can download for free that has all the information your child should need if he/she is out babysitting. You can get that here: